So another study about online dating - and how people self-segregate on the interwebs - started floating around this month. Any other Asian women ever wonder this? #SAF /VoS4T2mmht- Kat Chow May 7, 2013 Kat: Dating as an Asian woman is sort of like this: And white men never have to question whether they're attractive to others because of a fetish, that's for sure.
On the flip side, it's glaring how much everybody prefers white guys and doesn't respond to black men and women. This just really gets in my craw, because it becomes a problem for the Asian women - Am I just loved because I'm part of an ethnic group that's assumed to be subservient, or do I have actual value as an individual, or is it both? - and it's a problem for men who love them - Is my husband only with me 'cause he's a creepster who makes certain assumptions about me and my race, or can he legitimately be attracted to me as an individual? The results of this study only perpetuate social problems for both sexes involved. (I put "preference" in quotes, because I think there's a very fine line that teeters between preferences and fetishization, but that could be a whole other conversation.)Įlise: I actually do think there must be some of the Asian fetishization, er, "yellow fever" at play here. But to your point about not seeing troves of men flocking to Asian women: I dunno, I feel like I see a strong "preference" for Asian women in real life. Maybe the "mask" of screens empowers/emboldens users to pursue the type of people they might not encounter in real life. I wonder to what extent there's something about finding Asian women attractive online but not in "real life." Is this a preference revealed by online dating, or changed in some way by it? How would, say, the "mask" of screens affect our preferences?
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Elise Hu: So one of my reactions to the disproportionate popularity of Asian women is, I don't see troves of men flocking to Asian women in the offline world.